Nope. We Don't Want To See Your Dick Pic
Five reasons why you might want to rethink sending a photo of your knob
I can absolutely promise you that if a woman or in fact anyone wants to see a picture of your penis, they will ask you for one.
But trust me on this, if you would like a chance to send your appendage in digital form and in all its glory, then take a bit of time to work out why a woman might NOT want to see it before just sending it.
It’s not hard.
Or at least for now, it’s not.
Five Reasons You Need To Think Before Sending
You don't want to be an offensive weirdo now do you? I’m glad.
Think it through lads.
Consent: I’ll cut straight to it. Unsolicited, unwanted, uncalled-for, unprompted “dick pics” are an issue. Sending someone a sexual image without their consent violates their personal boundaries and privacy. This can make the recipient feel violated and disrespected. It would be the same for anything else. Don't force anyone to look at something so personal unless they want to.
Objectification: Let's face it, if you’re sending a random photo of your knob uninvited, chances are you’re only focused on your own pleasure and gratification, rather than the recipient’s comfort or pleasure. This objectifies the receiver and reduces them to mere sexual objects. Sext texting can be really nice, but it’s got to be two-way.
Power dynamics: The very act of sending your big guy (or medium one) can perpetuate a harmful gender power dynamic, as it reinforces the idea that men are entitled to another person's body and attention. Power play should be negotiated not an inescapable thing thrust upon anyone. Play fair.
Security Concerns: Receiving an unsolicited dick pic can make a person feel uncomfortable and unsafe, as it opens up the possibility for stalking, harassment, or other forms of online abuse. It begs the question as to what else you’re capable of if you think it’s OK to spam someone with such personal stuff without consent.
Perception: Sending such personal content can create a negative perception of the sender. I can honestly say amongst my peers it’s regarded as a sign of immaturity, entitlement, or a lack of respect. You don’t want to look like your brain is in your pants do you?
The Dick Head End
So in short, sending a picture of your knob can often contribute to a culture of misogyny and disrespect. It is honestly better to be respectful of other people’s boundaries and seek explicit consent before sending any sexual images or messages.
Brains and humour come first for most people. My advice would be to win the object of your desire over so they’ll want to see your sausage for real.
In-person.
That’s got to be so much nicer. Right?
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Gioia is a freelance journalist and documentary maker based in Merseyside. You can visit her work on Muckrack.